According to ladybird and according to modern life and the law of averages, her other job is to do everything else. This resonated with me, as I’m sure it did with every other reader who happens to be a Mother. The bottom line is that Motherhood is a doing job, when you become a Mother you become a human doing rather than a human being.
Is this true? Is this the way it should be? In an ideal (fantasy world) the majority of time (out of school and work) spent with our children, should be spent having fun, playing games, going on nature walks, baking, doing play dough (did I really just type that), laughing, singing, frolicking and just being and nurturing. Why does this deviate so far from the reality? Certainly for me, fun is often the last thing on the to do list that never gets crossed off.
I would love to change this or at least to get as far as to meet somewhere in the middle occasionally, lets not get carried away here and expect too much of oneself. I recently read another article which for want of a better expression touched a nerve, for the last few years I have been too caught up in the job side of Motherhood. How do I plan to improve? Remember me trying to find my inner homemaker anyone? This time I need to find my inner fun Mum even if it’s just for five minutes a day. I need to stop and smell the roses so to speak. I need to note the times when the boys show me appreciation and love, this bit should be easy as these times are notorious for being fleeting. I need to focus on having good times without there being too much pressure to have a good time, yes Christmas I’m looking at you.
I think I will try the one step at a time approach. Today I plan to play games with the boys whilst we are on our way to football on the bus. It would also be good to negotiate the whole getting ready process without shouting and to manage to laugh at some point. That’s three things listed. According to Tesco magazine, three is the optimum number of things we should have on a to do list, anymore and we become overwhelmed. I’ll let you know how it goes.