Children are full of surprises. Just when you think you’ve got it nailed, every so often for good or bad they do something that makes you flounder. For me, on this rare occasion it was a “for good” situation.
I am very aware, truthful person that I am, that I have given the distinct impression that life with boys and good behaviour dont go hand in hand. I have always liked to believe that school get the best of both boys; hell if they behaved as they do at home, I’m sure I would be hauled in regularly and I would go as far as to say that I could envisage ending up in a situation where I am forced to home school, something that I would not be good at.
A couple of weeks ago, younger boy came out of school clutching a certificate, a laminated certificate no less. I looked at it and was somewhat shocked to learn that the certificate had been rewarded for good behaviour; moreover younger boy had been credited with setting a good example to his peers. You might be wondering at this point whether I embarrassed the poor lad by covering him with kisses and exclaiming how proud I was to anybody unlucky enough to be in earshot. Of course, I could have given him a quick well done hug and perhaps promised him sort of reward. What did I do instead? I laughed as my immediate reaction was that it had to be some sort of sarcastic joke, right.
Luckily for me, younger boy ignored my laughter and began to tell me in a positive way how he had been rewarded for his good behaviour. I only realised after the event how confidence sapping my laughter could have been to him and I did feel pretty bad. I quickly changed my reaction and congratulated him as did a couple of our friends who we bumped into on the way home. His apparent good behaviour has been reinforced further by his school report and also by me being told by a teacher who helps out in his class regularly that my Son is so easy.
The upshot is that I am no longer in disbelief and this experience has taught me that I need to believe in my boys more and to higher my expectations of how others might perceive them. Quite a tall order but an order I need to reach nevertheless.