My 7 year old is being cheeky and rude. Requests to do his spellings, do his reading and have a shower are met with rudeness and contempt. He imitates me and pulls faces, it can not go on. Last night after a similar episode I dragged him up the stairs, forced him in the bathroom and shut him in his room. His bedoom door acted as a tug of war rope, it was a battle of wills, victory point to me, eventually I won. Tonight I try to be reasonable and give him a choice, my logic being choice equals illusion of power. I say you can read first or have a shower, this is repeated several times. Eventually I give him another choice, a repeat of last night. He opts for this (not the idea), I say “ok petal” and carry him up the stairs, one of these days my back will go. I am told to go and live in another house or be homeless. My Son hates me, I hate his behaviour. Eventualy he is in his room, door shut, repeat performance. I ask the husband to bring me a much needed can of Magners as I suspect that I will be here for some time, I drink it with the other hand whilst I hold the door. Time passes and I realise I have again won, he is sleeping. I am not hoping for a hat trick. He has fallen asleep in this clothes and stays that way until the following morning.