Not the can can so much but manners from boys and the so-called importance of instilling good manners into your children, especially if they are boys. On the one hand I like to think that my boys are quite forthcoming with their pleases and thank yous. For instance, from when they were little, I insisted that they said thank you when getting off the bus, now they do this without being told. I was also quite proud when older boy recently gave up a seat for an older person without being asked to. Maybe I was lulled into a false sense of security.
They are the good bits. Today whilst having a family friend round for dinner, I’m ashamed to admit that both boys displayed atrocious table manners. They ate with their hands, threw chips in each other’s drink and older boy took pleasure in executing a resounding belch. I felt appalled, they are not toddlers and I would be mortified if they displayed such behaviour in somebody else’s house. In fact I would rather not know. Although I am convinced that today was a one-off (they’re not normally that bad she says), it has given me a wake up call. We need to eat around the table as a family more, phones should not be allowed and as I am usually the only parent around at mealtimes, I should concentrate on modelling good table manners myself and help to create good habits.. Who knows we might look like one of the families from the Oxo advert soon, although I’m sure there were several attempts at mimicking this level of perfection for the photo shoot. Nevertheless it is an area where I intend to do better, even if we do live in Stayton zoo.
On a slightly different note, I like to think that the boys are going to demonstrate reasonable manners when it comes to how they treat their future girlfriends/wives. I really do try to instill in them the need to treat women/girls properly. Indeed, a year or two ago older boy confided in me about a girl he liked in his class. I advised him that the best way to get ahead with girls was to treat them nicely starting with this Mother. No selfish motive there then. I think its fair to say that if they treat their future partner’s better than how they treat me, I will have done a reasonably good job. Watch this space.